It is estimated that miscarriage will happen in at least 15-20% of all pregnancies. It is rarely spoken of and often seen as taboo. However, it is one of the most painful things a family can experience.
It is usually unknown why a spontaneous miscarriage may take place. Some of the reasons may include:
chromosomal or genetic abnormalities in the embryo
hormonal or structural abnormalities in the mother
It is known that the following reasons DO NOT increase the risk of miscarriage:
Wondering what the future holds
Forgetting your prenatals
It is not your fault.
And you aren't alone.
Five things you can do to help a family through a miscarriage:
1. Bring them a meal- It's so difficult to get out of bed sometimes, much less eat.
2. Just listen to them mourn- I will bet they had a whole lifetime with their baby planned out no matter how long or short of a time their baby was with them.
3. Use their baby's name- Help them honor the memory and acknowledge their baby's existence by using the name they have painstakingly chosen.
4. Spend time with older siblings- If they are old enough to understand, hear their thoughts as they process through it all. If they are too young to understand, play with them and hug on them a bit. They won't understand the sadness.
5. Avoid hurtful phrases: Things like "At least you have [older sibling]" or "you can always try again" will only cause agonizing pain. They wanted this baby. They wanted them so badly.